Jessica

Jessica

 

When I found out about Self-Match.com, I thought it might be interesting to try it with my new boyfriend...to find out if he is the right guy for me. Rivers and I have only been dating for about 3 months, so certain important topics (like politics, religion, finances, etc.) really haven't come up that much. I've found with past relationships that those things often don't come up...until it's a problem. If you're with someone who won't compromise, your life can really become a nightmare. Self-Match.com really takes the guesswork out of the important topics, lets you see how much of a match you are, and gives you a chance to discuss these matters with your guy/girl before they negatively affect your life together (or your divorce...lol).

So I jumped right in and created a survey for Rivers and me to take. I chose important questions from every category (over 10 of them) and a few from a fun "Ice-Breakers" category. Self-Match.com recommends starting with the Ice-Breakers, then the Easy-Match, and then the other categories, but I thought it would be good to have a mix. I should have listened to the experts because I had way too many "serious" questions and Rivers and I only scored a 22%. Many of our answers were similar, though, if not total matches, and it did give us a good chance to discuss whether we could compromise on certain topics. And we found out that if we were Superman that we'd both take out ISIS! (That's a very important similarity.)

But I was a bit bummed by our 22%, so I listened to Self-Match.com this time and sent Rivers a new survey with just the Easy-Match questions. This time we scored an 89.58%! I know the % is not the most important thing, but it made me feel better to get a (rounded up) A on our match. And I learned some valuable information. I learned Rivers could perhaps forgive if I cheated on him (that's a total no go for me) and I learned he loves cats (I'm allergic). I also learned he's comfortable with PDA (ick!) and that we have similar views on almost all the important topics like family, friends, work, play, and relationship roles.

I now plan on going through each of the categories separately to find out Rivers' views on them. We'll definitely learn a lot about ourselves. Most importantly, Rivers will learn if I can compromise and I'll learn if he can. That's so important to know.

So I highly recommend Self-Match.com. It's a fun website where you can learn a lot about yourself and your potential match. I would definitely advise you to let Self-Match.com's "Recipe for Choosing the Right Partner" guide you in your survey creation. Otherwise, you might end up with a low score on your first survey like we did, just by not following the instructions. And I'd advise paying more attention to your differences in answers instead of the % score anyway. Your survey results should lead to a dialogue between you and your potential match, one where you can discover information that often doesn't come up until it's a serious problem.

That's what I like about taking the surveys with Rivers. It's leading to our discovery on important issues. I know this knowledge will make us a stronger couple...or lead me away from him and towards the right one for me (if Rivers is not Mr. Right). Either way, I'm going to utilize Self-Match.com now and into the future.